Bad Parenting

Does bad parenting really exist? No parents want anything bad for their kids. Parents sometimes use techniques that leave a detrimental effect on the child. Even though it may be unintentional, the damage is done. It needs awareness and patience to repair the damage.

Bad parenting is a series of actions that invariably harm the child’s psyche. Many parents do not realize their folly. The intentions are never bad. Operating out of their own compulsions and limitations, parents cause damage without realising it.

What Are The Signs Of Bad Parenting?
Here are some things you could be doing unintentionallyto earn the tag of a bad parent:

1.Discouragement
If your child makes a mistake and acknowledges it, you scold him for it. You have forget that the child has been courageous in being truthful. Reprimanding or punishing him for it would discourage him from further sharing.

2. Disrespect
Do you scold your child irrespective of the place and the people around at that moment? It is deeply humiliating for the child to be reprimanded in such a way, it affects the self-esteem and self-worth of the child.

3. Ordering
Responsibility has to be taught in a way that it becomes ingrained in the child. Do you give instructions all the time rather than encouraging your child to learn to be responsible for himself?

4. Lack Of Attention
Your child could be trying to get your attention by troubling? He may feel a lack of emotional connect and warmth from his parents. Give your child the love and attention he craves, that will put an end to the negative behaviour.

5. Support
Focusingon your personal and official commitments before your child’s needs engenders a feeling of being unsupported in your child. Put your child first and give him the support that he needs in school or in his personal development.

6. Comparison
Do you compare your child to other children or other people? It is good to set positive role models for your child but beware of constant comparison as that would be detrimental to your child’s confidence.

7. Discouragement Do you express your happiness when your kid comes to you with an achievement? It’s important to share in your child’s triumphs and joys. An instruction to do better next time without appreciating the current win would set your child up for lowered levels of performance.

8. Criticism
Are you always critical of your child? This is different from not appreciating something, here you just disapprove everything. The child loses the enthusiasm to do anything and sets up for failure as making an effort would not be worth anything.

9. Not Listening
You may be teaching your child a lot of good things but do you take the little one’s opinion regarding those things? Listening actively is very important to a child’s self-esteem and confidence. The fact that they are heard shows them that their opinion and hence they matter.

10. Preaching
Do you just instruct your child or do you teach by example? It is not about showing the path but also walking with the child for the first few steps. Actions are more effective than words.

11. Setting An Example
Children learn both good and bad habits from their parents. If the child does something inappropriate, then introspect whether he may have learnt it from you.

12. Giving Choices
Parents tend to decide everything for their children down to the minute details of their lives. In the process you may forget to consider what your child wants. It makes the child yearn for hisvoice to be heard, it may make a rebel out of him as he grows older.

13. Spoiling
It’s good to shower attention and materialistic love but not to go overboard and spoil your child. He may take everything for granted and not understand the value of anything. It give sthe child unrealistic expectations from the outside world and sets them up for hurt and disappointment.

14. Dependence
It is necessary to be there for your child at all times but not to the point that he is unable to do anything on his own. This gives rise to low self-confidence and self-esteem.

15. Abuse
Intimidating your child with physical and/or verbal abuse as a tool of discipline leaves the child helpless. It builds fear in the child for you and it does great harm to the tender psyche.

16. Non-Communication
Do you communicate with your child in a pro-active way? Is your attention on him fully when he comes to you with queries or just to share something? Your response matters a lot in the building of your child’s personality. If you ignore your child when he wants to communicate, or listen with half your attention elsewhere, your rapport with him will be unhealthy. Your child needs guidance through your wisdom and love.

Bad parenting can have a lasting impact on the child and it often causes irreversible damage.